Similarly I always thought that the worst thing that could happen would be for both of us to be out of work at the same time. Now we're in that situation and... well, it sucks. I will admit that. But, it's not as bad as I thought it would be.
For one thing we've really had the chance to spend time with each other for the first time in a very long time. Sure, there are a couple of things that drive us nuts about the other, but mostly it's been a real treat.
We're also using this time to talk about what's important to us. It's interesting how our guiding values lose their central position when we're distracted by the minutiae of everyday life. I'm grateful that we've had the chance to sit down and evaluate our lives so clearly. I don't want to have to go through a job loss again to find this new clarity of thought and purpose, but I have to admit that this has been good for us to do.
So what's different now? I'm going to try to never say never about anything because of the unexpected benefits new situations bring.